As a Hope Dealer Girlie, I’m all about helping you step into your true self and shine your light in a world that can sometimes feel dark and overwhelming. One of the biggest challenges we face on this journey is learning to distinguish between our false self and our true self.
The False Self: Trapped in Fear
The false self is the part of us that operates out of fear. It's the voice in our head that tells us we’re not enough, that we need to please everyone else to be loved, or that we have to achieve more to be worthy. This false self thrives on the emotions of fear, keeping us stuck in a perpetual state of fight or flight. It’s like living with a constant knot in your stomach, always on edge, never fully at peace.
Emotions of Fear (False Self):
Anxiety
Anger
Jealousy
Resentment
Guilt
Shame
Doubt
Insecurity
Frustration
Worry
Panic
Bitterness
Despair
Regret
Helplessness
When we’re caught in these fear-based emotions, our body reacts as if we’re in danger, triggering our fight-or-flight response. This keeps us in a cycle of stress, anxiety, and exhaustion. It’s exhausting, isn’t it?
The True Self: Living in Love
Your true self, on the other hand, is who you really are at your core—whole, worthy, and filled with love. This part of you knows that you are enough, just as you are. It’s rooted in love, peace, and connection. The true self doesn’t need to prove anything or seek external validation because it already knows its worth.
Emotions of Love (True Self):
Compassion
Gratitude
Joy
Peace
Trust
Acceptance
Empathy
Contentment
Forgiveness
Kindness
Generosity
Hope
Serenity
Connection
Understanding
These emotions uplift and nourish you, allowing you to feel grounded and secure. When you operate from your true self, you live in a state of flow and alignment with your higher purpose. You’re no longer reacting out of fear but responding from a place of love.
The First Step: Awareness
The journey to break free from the fear cycle begins with awareness. Where in your body are you feeling these emotions? Become the observer of your experience. Notice if you feel heat, pressure on your chest, or tension in your head. Your body reacts as if it’s going to be harmed, even if the threat is only perceived.
Take a moment to sit with these emotions. Allow yourself to fully feel them. Describe the sensations in your body—don’t rush through this process. Your body holds onto these emotions, and by acknowledging them, you give your body permission to dissipate the pressure.
Feel and Journal Your Experience
As you sit with these emotions, consider journaling what you observe. Write down how the emotions feel in your body, what thoughts accompany them, and how your physical sensations change as you allow yourself to feel them. Then, take a deep breath and gently tell your body, "You are okay." This simple act of reassurance helps to calm the nervous system and bring you back to a state of peace.
How to Break Free from the Fear Cycle
Getting out of the fear cycle and reconnecting with your true self is a courageous journey. Here’s how you can start:
Create New Thoughts: Once you’ve acknowledged and processed the fear-based emotions, start replacing them with thoughts rooted in love and truth. For example, instead of thinking, "I’m not good enough," try affirming, "I am worthy and capable."
Cultivate Love-Based Emotions: Practice gratitude, compassion, and joy daily. These emotions counteract fear and help you connect with your true self. Surround yourself with people, activities, and environments that foster these positive emotions.
Take Courageous Action: Don’t let fear dictate your life. Take small, bold steps toward your dreams and goals, even if it feels uncomfortable. Courage is not the absence of fear but the willingness to move forward despite it. Every time you act from a place of love, you weaken the hold of the false self.
Embrace Your True Self
Stepping into your true self isn’t an overnight process; it’s a lifelong journey of self-discovery and growth. But every moment you choose love over fear, you get closer to living in your truth. Remember, you are worthy of love, joy, and peace—just as you are. Keep shining! You’ve got this!
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My goal is to always help you live in Divine health with a prosperous soul.
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